26 May 2013
05 May 2013
Thinking we can find some lasting pleasure and avoid pain is what in Buddhism is called Samsara, a hopeless cycle that goes round and round endlessly and causes us to suffer greatly.
When things fall apart Pema Chodron
27 July 2012
Im reading this wonderful book " Comfortable with uncertainty 108 teachings" by Pema Chodron.
In the past few weeks many things have happened that have have turned things upside down for me...
A friend decided he could no longer deal with this world and took his own life.
My brother in law was given four months to live because of an in operable brain tumour.
I was presented with a "huge" financial bill.
My son was randomly attacked by a group, hit over the head with a bottle and kicked to the floor, as people walked on by and did nothing.
To say I have felt angry with the resent events would be an understatement-but it is what to do with this anger, and the feelings of uncertainty that is key...
This book has been really helpful ( along with talking to some trusted friends)and taking "time out" to meditate to quieten the mind. I am not a Buddhist, but I find these Buddhist teachings show me a way to experience the darker side of life ( which is of course part of life), with greater compassion and acceptance.
" Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity"
13 March 2010
The only reason we don't open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don't feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else's eyes.